Are you a flirt? Do feel tempted to turn on the charm when you’re at work? Don’t do it! Flirting at work is always a bad idea. So before you go and give your coworker a back rub, here are some reasons why you might want to keep your hands to yourself:
It undermines your credibility. It is difficult to present yourself as a competent professional when you’re perceived as flirtatious. When you flirt at work, you communicate that you aren’t serious about your job and your coworkers and managers will respond accordingly. They may be thinking that you are too busy flirting to take on interesting projects or to be a serious contender for a promotion.
It can bring you problems. When you flirt at work you open yourself up to problems that would never be an issue if you just stayed focused on your job. You may find yourself having to turn down advances from your coworker or even be forced to defend yourself against charges of sexual harassment. It goes without saying that none of this is good for your career.
It makes people uncomfortable. Even if your coworkers don’t complain about your behaviour, it doesn’t mean that they like it. There is a good chance that it makes some people uncomfortable. Keep in mind that your coworkers may be coming from a very different background than you do and from their perspective, flirting with coworkers may be completely inappropriate. Some of your coworkers may actually avoid dealing with you because they are afraid that you are going to flirt with them.
It is a distraction. The fact is, you’re not being paid to flirt. Your manager hired you to do a job and if your spending your energy flirting, you have lost your focus. Keep your mind on the job when you’re at work and you can do whatever you want on your off time.
We spend a lot of time with our coworkers and we form strong connections with them. It is no surprise that coworkers often get romantically involved. However, whatever you do in your personal life, it’s a good idea to keep it away from the workplace. When you mix romance with your career, there is a good chance that both areas of your life will suffer.
(Written by Karen Bivand)