Have you ever noticed that some people make friends immediately, while others have to work at it? Everyone wants to connect with their coworkers, but if you are little bit shy, or feel awkward in social situations, it can be difficult to create those relationships. Here are some tips that will make your coworkers want to reach out and connect with you:
Be approachable. What does your body language communicate to your coworkers? Do you eat lunch in your cubicle, wearing headphones and facing the window? Or do you eat in the lunchroom and engage with people? Don’t be a hermit. Smile and say hello. You may find that when you appear more friendly, people are more likely to talk to you.
Take a genuine interest in your coworkers. Most people love to talk about themselves. If you take a genuine interest in your coworkers’ lives, they will enjoy their conversations with you. When you listen to others, you are acting like a friend and you may even find something that you have in common with them.
Do things for others. Go out of your way to do something nice for your coworkers. You can remember their birthday, notice that they are having a bad day and make an effort to help them, or buy them a coffee just to be nice. Everyone appreciates the person who makes their day a little easier.
Be yourself. Don’t change or subdue your personality in order to fit in or be popular. Let your coworkers get to know the real you. It’ll take time but you will make friends who appreciate you for who you are.
If you are just starting a new job, you can’t expect to become friends with your coworkers immediately. You need to give them time to get used to you. Make an effort to connect, and before you know it, you’ll be a part of the group.
(Written by: Karen Bivand)