You carefully customized your resume and you nailed not one, but two interviews. You were sure that a job offer was just around the corner, but then you got the call. Not the, “We-love-you-and-we-want-you-to-join-our team!” call, but the “Thanks, but we’ve selected-another-candidate” call. It hurts. You thought that your job hunting days were almost over, but now you have been shoved right back to square one. How do you find the motivation to start again? Here are some tips that will help you recover from this disappointment and move forward:
Know that it’s a part of the process. Job hunting is not for the faint of heart. Often you spend hours on your application and don’t even get an acknowledgement. Even after a few interviews, there are no guarantees. Everyone experiences a gut-wrenching rejection at some point. You just have to pick yourself up and keep going.
Recognize that it might not have been the right fit. Although it seemed like a cool opportunity, it may not have been a perfect fit for you. Perhaps the requirements were not an exact match with your skill set? Or maybe you wouldn’t completely fit in with the organizational culture. Whatever the reason, the employer chose someone else. You want to find an employer who values you and feels lucky that you applied for the job. There’s a job for you out there; you just need to find it.
Learn from it. Don’t you love it when your mother says this to you?! As annoying as it may sound in this moment, your mother is right. The experiences that we have (especially the painful ones) have lessons for us if we pay attention. Step back and ask yourself, “Why didn’t I get this job?” Is there a skill that you need to develop? Do you need to do a few practice interviews? You can even ask the manager if they would be willing to give you feedback. The lessons that you get from this disappointment can help you be successful in your next opportunity.
Always remember that this is not the only job in world and you will find other positions that are just as amazing. Sometimes we allow ourselves to become so emotionally invested in a particular job that we feel crushed if it doesn’t work out. If this opportunity came along then there will be others. The key is to stay motivated and to keep looking.
(Written by: Karen Bivand)